This post is for those people who spend too much time on social networking site Facebook. All the views presented in this post are of my own and you need not agree with them.
Hi friend don't get me wrong. I too love facebook. But I believe some people are using facebook in way which is not supposed to be.
It is human nature people share only the good stuff on their facebook wall. You can have your status say something funny or something wise. You can share something cool or something that will make your friends jealous. Even if you are being yelled at by your father, you can type in your fake status about enjoying the day at home! Nobody needs to know, you can pretend, nobody needs to know real you!
Nobody admits it and perhaps many don’t even realize that the online portrayal is far from who we really are. In the process, we end up creating an online place that is far from reality. The online life that you portray is often not the real life, and it is always influenced by the wishful thinking of the depths of your brain.
How to identify if Facebook is controlling you? At first let me see if you come under these symptoms:
Addictive: If you use Facebook regularly, you know exactly how this site can be addictive. You may be always updating your status, checking on others, or just mingling with strangers etc. Facebook puts a variety of powerful options on your fingertips and you are hooked for hours and hours every day.
Personal privacy: Many of us pay very little attention to all the information we put online, some of it quite personal. Where you live, your contact information, what you do, where you go. You may be opening the doors for others to intrude on your life. Even with all the privacy settings, lots of so called friends have access to your personal information, a lot more than you may want to. The risk is more if your account is compromised.
Employer may use Facebook against you: Your employer may use facebook to check what you are doing. Also, most of the companies and workplaces don’t want anyone to be wasting their productive time on the Facebook. What you say or what you share on Facebook may come back to bite you, sooner or later :).
Easy to lie and deceive: Nobody is watching you. Nobody can see you. People can live their fantasies on facebook. Anyone can make a fake profile with a fake picture and pretend to be whoever he/she wants. That is the ugly side of FB, you can never be certain about facebook friends you have never met in real life.
Frequent annoying status update: You often find some strange and useless status updates on facebook, all the time. What you had for breakfast, what was the score of your local team that no one has heard of, what color of shoes you are wearing. The status update is often over done and meaningless. And, if you breakup with your gf/bf, you can announce I am single again within seconds.
Society of loners: Facebook has become a place to pass time if you have nothing better to do. Many facebook users hide in their rooms and log onto FB, rather than socializing with actual friends and family. Those who don’t socialize in real life may prefer to add excessive friends on FB and feel social online. In some cases, the online social networking tool could actually encourage you to be anti-social and loner in your real life.
People may spy: Your profile page is full of information about you like who you are, where you work at, what is your favorite music, your favorite movies, books and TV series, what are your religious and political beliefs, your studies and other areas of your interests. As a matter of fact, you share too much information with other people, who are totally strangers. Some Facebook users take higher risk and put on their home addresses and phone numbers on the profile. This is probably how strangers find their way home without needing to chat first.
Open secrets:You tend to share your date of birth and place of birth on your profile. But actually all these details can be used to hack your bank account where some security questions related to you asked in order to authenticate. An intruder can easily get these details via your facebook profile. Of course you may provide security by making your profile info invisible to strangers. Imagine the effect if the stranger becomes your friend?
Facebook may be considered a cool social networking tool for some people, but in reality, it is just a fake book for others!
Some strange and true facts related to facebook:
"Facebook has resulted in more divorces and break ups than building relationships."
"Facebook addiction causes the same changes in the brain that are seen in cocaine users."
"Facebook makes you overestimate how happy your friends are, in turn makes you more depressed."
"Facebook is linked to one out of every five divorces in the United States."
Facebook can work great In many cases like you can catch up with old friends, find valuable information, promote your work and your business, support really important causes and meet people who can be real friends in the process. What is wrong with Facebook is the ritualistic involvement that turns into addiction and which takes you away from your real life by triggering you to log on several times a day.
"Life is to live, there are thousands of things waiting for us in the real world."
Hi friend don't get me wrong. I too love facebook. But I believe some people are using facebook in way which is not supposed to be.
It is human nature people share only the good stuff on their facebook wall. You can have your status say something funny or something wise. You can share something cool or something that will make your friends jealous. Even if you are being yelled at by your father, you can type in your fake status about enjoying the day at home! Nobody needs to know, you can pretend, nobody needs to know real you!
Nobody admits it and perhaps many don’t even realize that the online portrayal is far from who we really are. In the process, we end up creating an online place that is far from reality. The online life that you portray is often not the real life, and it is always influenced by the wishful thinking of the depths of your brain.
How to identify if Facebook is controlling you? At first let me see if you come under these symptoms:
- You spend more than 30 minutes a day on Facebook.
- You communicate with people more on Facebook than you do in real life.
- If facebook is unable to open on a particular day you get frustrated.
- You post critical things related to you directly on your wall.
- You often visit all your friends profile to see what is happening there.
- When you are on facebook you avoid people who are nearer to you in real life.
- You prefer to chat with people rather than to talk via phone.
- You have ever revealed something deeply personal on Facebook that you have regretted later.
- You go on Facebook mostly to meet strangers and play games.
Negative effects of Facebook
Addictive: If you use Facebook regularly, you know exactly how this site can be addictive. You may be always updating your status, checking on others, or just mingling with strangers etc. Facebook puts a variety of powerful options on your fingertips and you are hooked for hours and hours every day.
Personal privacy: Many of us pay very little attention to all the information we put online, some of it quite personal. Where you live, your contact information, what you do, where you go. You may be opening the doors for others to intrude on your life. Even with all the privacy settings, lots of so called friends have access to your personal information, a lot more than you may want to. The risk is more if your account is compromised.
Employer may use Facebook against you: Your employer may use facebook to check what you are doing. Also, most of the companies and workplaces don’t want anyone to be wasting their productive time on the Facebook. What you say or what you share on Facebook may come back to bite you, sooner or later :).
Easy to lie and deceive: Nobody is watching you. Nobody can see you. People can live their fantasies on facebook. Anyone can make a fake profile with a fake picture and pretend to be whoever he/she wants. That is the ugly side of FB, you can never be certain about facebook friends you have never met in real life.
Frequent annoying status update: You often find some strange and useless status updates on facebook, all the time. What you had for breakfast, what was the score of your local team that no one has heard of, what color of shoes you are wearing. The status update is often over done and meaningless. And, if you breakup with your gf/bf, you can announce I am single again within seconds.
Society of loners: Facebook has become a place to pass time if you have nothing better to do. Many facebook users hide in their rooms and log onto FB, rather than socializing with actual friends and family. Those who don’t socialize in real life may prefer to add excessive friends on FB and feel social online. In some cases, the online social networking tool could actually encourage you to be anti-social and loner in your real life.
People may spy: Your profile page is full of information about you like who you are, where you work at, what is your favorite music, your favorite movies, books and TV series, what are your religious and political beliefs, your studies and other areas of your interests. As a matter of fact, you share too much information with other people, who are totally strangers. Some Facebook users take higher risk and put on their home addresses and phone numbers on the profile. This is probably how strangers find their way home without needing to chat first.
Open secrets:You tend to share your date of birth and place of birth on your profile. But actually all these details can be used to hack your bank account where some security questions related to you asked in order to authenticate. An intruder can easily get these details via your facebook profile. Of course you may provide security by making your profile info invisible to strangers. Imagine the effect if the stranger becomes your friend?
Facebook may be considered a cool social networking tool for some people, but in reality, it is just a fake book for others!
Some strange and true facts related to facebook:
"Facebook has resulted in more divorces and break ups than building relationships."
"Facebook addiction causes the same changes in the brain that are seen in cocaine users."
"Facebook makes you overestimate how happy your friends are, in turn makes you more depressed."
"Facebook is linked to one out of every five divorces in the United States."
Facebook can work great In many cases like you can catch up with old friends, find valuable information, promote your work and your business, support really important causes and meet people who can be real friends in the process. What is wrong with Facebook is the ritualistic involvement that turns into addiction and which takes you away from your real life by triggering you to log on several times a day.
"Life is to live, there are thousands of things waiting for us in the real world."
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